Building Up the Men in Our Lives..Article 1

 

I'm happy to share a guest blogger/author here at Ladybug Chronicles. Sheri Rose Shepherd. She is an award winning author using her life experiences to help her to identify with almost any woman's battle. She grew up in a broken home and was severely overweight as a teen. She experienced depression, dyslexia and an eating disorder. Through God's strength, she has become a wonderful speaker at events nationwide.

 I will be posting four articles about her new book over the next week.

 

"Your Heart's Desire"- 14 Truths That Will Forever Change the Way You Love and Are Loved by Sheri Rose Shepherd. 

 

Here is the first article.. Hope you enjoy..

Building Up the Men in Our Lives

By Sheri Rose Shepherd

Bestselling Author and Bible Life Coach

He who covers over an offense promotes love, but whoever repeats the matter separates close friends. (Proverbs 17:9, niv)

When our husbands let us down, it’s hard not to voice our anger and disappointment. We don’t do it to hurt or embarrass our husbands. We are women, and we’re wired to share our hearts with another person. We definitely need one another to become the women we want to be, but we need to be careful not to cripple our men by uncovering their weaknesses to everyone.

Obviously we all need someone to help us sort through our feelings. I think it is best to find one or two trustworthy people who are in favor of our marriages and won’t repeat our conversation to others. I have two best friends to whom I tell everything because they help me see things from my husband’s perspective and help me fight for my marriage by praying and sharing wisdom from the Word. I am careful, even with them, not to overshare in a way that would humiliate my husband, Steve.

Think about how we would feel if our husbands talked about our weaknesses at their workplaces. Let’s commit to covering our men and not exposing them, and let’s pray for them to grow as leaders.

Don’t Enable . . .

For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her. (Ephesians 5:25)

Because we women are so good at leading, many times we leave our men in the dust or allow them to become weak leaders. How are they ever supposed to learn to lead if we do everything for them? We are not their mothers; we are their wives. Christ asked them to love, lead, and take care of us the way He loves the church.

It’s important that we not try to do things that are our husbands’ responsibility unless they are absolutely necessary. Even if we can do their job better than they can, we’re not helping them become the men they long to be; we are enabling them. They will see us as their mothers and not their wives, which will make us bitter toward them and produce the fruit of self-hate in their lives.

Do What You Can to Empower Him . . .

Sarah obeyed her husband, Abraham, and called him her master. You are her daughters when you do what is right without fear of what your husbands might do. (1 Peter 3:6)

I used to think it was strange that Sarah called her husband “master.” I thought maybe she was even putting her husband before God. But today I realize she was a wise woman. She was empowering her husband to find his place as her leader. We can also help our husbands become godly leaders for us. Even if they do not rise up right away, we shouldn’t give up on them. We can keep praying and empowering them. Whatever they do, big or small, let’s encourage them. Let’s be like Sarah and do whatever it takes to empower our men to be great.

For more teaching videos from Sheri Rose, go to www.biblelifecoaching.com.

Check out her book @ Tyndale House Publishing or you can purchase it where paperback books are sold!